I was in my late 40’s, too tired to want to socialize or clean my house. I wasn’t sleeping and I was stressed out – worried about how my LGBTQIA+ daughter was going to thrive in this critical world.
I was crying on the couch one day. I didn’t even understand why, but a voice within me encouraged me to ‘be strong’ and I felt the urge to do anything to make myself feel better. Anything.
I thought about how I took care of my daughters and husband and gave myself permission to do the same for me. Putting myself at the top of my to-do list and creating a self-care routine that worked for me.
That meant rest – whenever I felt like it. I got some professional help for my sleep and anxiety issues and continued my self-care routine with meditation, exercise, and cleaner eating. I felt better and I was less stressed.
When I turned 50, I woke up to this quote on my birthday:
“Love yourself. It is important to stay positive because beauty comes from the inside out.”
– Jenn Proske
This quote filled me with love. It helped me to understand that I needed to embrace myself, love exactly who I am and love all of my journey. I felt ready to look forward to the future with love and excitement instead of worry. And I wanted to share this self-love with others.
I found a spiritual coach and she helped me to reflect inward – rediscovering my true self through new mentally healthy habits such as inspirational reading, journaling and mindfulness.
Together these habits helped me to learn that I am an overfunctioner, a people-pleaser and a perfectionist. But I’ve also learned to welcome those parts of me and take note of when they are showing up and blocking me from moving forward.
Now I am able to see and feel when I am overwhelmed, doubting myself or pushing myself too hard. Through coaching, I’ve learned to take my awareness and acceptance of these feelings and take aligned action – creating new and healthy reactions to overcome my blocks.
I was inspired to become a coach myself and have since become a Certified Professional Coach, a Whole Person Certified Coach, and a Trauma Informed Coach. Soon, I will be a Certified Mastery Method Coach – able to help my clients deeply transform from the inside out.
What I love the most about coaching has been somatics (your mind-body connection), literally feeling how overwhelm affects my body. Knowing how to safely sit with those feelings and put words to those sensations has been life changing. I am able to instantly know when I am feeling anxious or angry and I know what I need in each moment to help me move through my emotions.
My beauty within is self-awareness. It’s made me a much happier person – at peace within and with who I am. Through this awareness, I am able to accept myself and move forward with aligned action toward my goals – and you can too!
Continuing to deeply self-care for myself today, I have transformed into the best version of me and that directly affects how I am as a mother, wife, friend, coach and community member.
My ability to give and care for my loved ones has increased. When my second daughter came out as LGBTQIA+, I was able to love her with confidence instead of worry.
On the day I hit bottom, I received the message to use my inner strength to be strong and then pass on that strength to others.
I help other women (and men, too) going through their own midlife struggles. It has become my purpose to support them as they intuitively self-care for themselves, learning who they are and loving who they see.
We want to be at our best for our families and to be at our best, we need to put our own mental, physical and spiritual health first.
I’ll say it again – you are worth it!
Truths about me:
I’m an ally and proud mom of two LGBTQIA+ daughters (and I’m grateful for them, too!)
I’m a hiking, biking, skiing wife (we’re always planning our next adventure)
I’m an introverted free-spirit (yes, it’s a thing)
I love the ‘Woo’ (and I’m always looking to bring more into my life)
I’m a dancing, messy baker (nobody wants to see this)
I’m an imperfect entrepreneur (learning and growing everyday)
I’m not religious (but spirituality is my jam)
I’m an Enneagram 9 (optimistic and easy-going but lose energy quickly)
I’m a fulfilled coach (I found my true purpose)
2022-23: Studying the Mastery Method with the Institute of Coaching Mastery under Alyssa Nobriga
December 2021: Certified Trauma Informed Coach with Coach Training World (CTW)
April 2021: Whole Person Certified Coach with CTW
January 2021: Certified Professional Coach with CTW
August 2020: Coach and owner/founder of Choose Good Coaching
Almost 30 years (yikes!) of Client Relationship Management for various small businesses
Mom, Wife, Free-Spirit encouraging other women to live their truth
Self-Care, Self-Growth, Self-Love, Self-Development Junkie